Two potential responses to my parents

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We do not know what your summer plans are, but we wanted to reinstate that until further notice we are still requesting space. We will not be visiting.

“Until we see true repentance for the ways you have hurt us, we do not want to see you, have any contact, nor for you to be around our children. Now please leave, you are not welcomed here.”

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