April 28 thoughts

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I think I will begin blogging again. Not all at once, but as thoughts come to me. I think it would be more helpful for me to put my thoughts on paper than try to repress them in some way. I will redirect my input towards more positive things. But as darkness and disturbing images come to me, I will also write them down and seek to explain them, so that they do not have mastery over me.

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