Summoning rage

It occurs to me today that dad at times summons his rage. It is like a dragon he keeps on a chain, somewhere in his soul. We have all learned to fear it, and it is his source of power.

However, when unleashed, dad is never quite sure what will happen. Sometimes, the rage goes too far. Dad does not like that, and shows remorse. The rage clearly costs him emotionally. He does not wish to stir it up.

At times, he has put a great deal of energy into educating his sons. "Don't do these things, so that I don't get mad." He doesn't like getting mad, any more than we like him getting mad.

These are interesting thoughts. It certainly points to the fragmentation, and the lack of integration in my dad. He has a conflicted relationship to his rage. He dislikes it, but cannot really live without it.

But he is essentially a weakling, a wimp. The only way that he can get his way is to summon his terrible rage. But that is a desperate, and a costly solution. If he can get everyone in his world to walk on eggshells, then he wins. He can control with minimal effort.

...but if too many start to run away, and too much of his world goes out of control at the same time? What then? 

He does not have the resources to keep us in control with calmness, reason, and cool control. 

If I break the bonds of fear which tie me to his rage, what would he have left?