The Good Times
Now that I have found some clarity on why I am writing, and why I am going no contact, I have found my thinking shifting. I can start to appreciate the good times really just as good times, rather than trying to push everything through the filter of narcissism and evil. I say “I can,” because there was a very real necessity before. I could not see the good times. I could not think about them. I could not be reminded of them. Really, I could not. The good times were the worst. They would trigger me, and cause me to have disturbing thoughts, obsessive dreams, extreme fatigue, sleeping bouts, dizziness. I couldn’t handle them. But now I can. Today, I was out kayaking with some of my kids. I entrusted my nine year old to kayak with my eighteen month old. The wind started to blow him out, and I got concerned, so I coached him to paddle harder, and came up behind him and pushed him with my kayak. “This is like my dad,” I thought, “He would get concerned, and help me out too wh...